Knowledge is everything:
The more information you have, the less likely you’ll need to guess and make mistakes. Learn what’s available and what things might cost. Learn where general eldercare information can be found and what’s accessible for specific conditions.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help: Initially, a caregiver might get the support he or she needs by confiding in one or two close friends. Share your thoughts and feelings. Don’t isolate yourself. By acknowledging your feelings, you can begin to understand them.
Consider all eventualities: Though often a difficult task to face, it may be necessary to get financial and legal affairs in order. Do you have Power of Attorney for your loved one’s personal care and financial matters? Do you have wills? Are you aware of your spouse’s estate? Seek legal advice so that everything is looked after before a crisis occurs.
Take notes: Written records avoid confusion, waffling and potential discrepancies. Refer back to notes for changes, instructions and care plans. It’s hard to remember everything and always best to double-check and confirm.
Show respect: An aging parent may be slower in step and thought, but he or she has a lot of life experience and has made a number of lifestyle and location choices. Change, after all these years, may be difficult. Don’t discount your elder’s years of life experience, expertise or personal style.
The Complete Canadian Eldercare Guide will be available in bookstores across Canada in June.